If the title of this book made you want to read the description … you’re a People Pleaser.
And if that’s the case, I don’t even need to describe what’s inside because you already want to read it just to make me proud. Because you value my opinion of you, even though we’ve never met.
First, I already like you. We’ll probably be best friends. So don’t even worry about that. And second, believe it or not, that thing that will drive you to read this book cover to cover, to get lost in the funny and fucked up life stories about me and my clients, to crush all the intense emotional exercises in every chapter so you can feel those “pat on the back” endorphins … that’s not the thing that needs to change. That’s your massively giving heart. It’s beautiful-like you-and doesn’t need to be toned down. Instead, these pages and the insights within will help you learn to harness that big love for the betterment of yourself. Because you can’t love too hard.
Your capacity to love so generously is what makes you a goddamn unicorn in this world. We just need to be sure you’re aiming that love in the right direction first. (Yup, you guessed it, directly at that hot piece of cute af reading these very words.) So crack this baby open and take the first step of your recovery from People Pleasing Addiction. All the while, staying whimsically, rebelliously, and gloriously YOU.
I could not put this book down. And as soon as I finished reading it, I read it again. And maybe one more time after that...The Whimsical Rebel: Break People-Pleasing Addiction without Becoming an Asshole is a must-read for anyone needing to learn how to better love and understand themselves. Ahdri Kent offers unparalleled, intuitive, and endearing insights into why we people pleasers do what we do.
With her raw language, captivating stories, and profound guidance, Kent gives readers someone to relate to and lovingly accepts exactly who they are. It's okay to want to please others; that makes us special. But we need to learn how not to lose ourselves in the process. This book made me laugh, cry, gasp, and sigh... It was an emotional ride in the best of ways. Along the way, I gained valuable knowledge that has changed my entire outlook on my life and relationships. Experiencing so many AH-HA! moments in this book, I have come to better understand myself and others. Kent has given me the tools I desperately needed but never knew I was missing.
This book was a hit upside the head I didn't know I needed. I've been asleep to the concepts that the author illustrates with a refreshing sense of authenticity and casual conversational humor. She takes a very serious issue and presents it as if we were friends chatting over coffee. It made this very palatable. Interesting read!
I freaking love this book! As a success and leadership coach, I see so many people sidelined by their people-pleasing and perfectionist issues. This no-nonsense, outspoken approach is just what so many people need to take the first step towards their own empowerment. I found myself cheering and shouting as if I were at a church revival. If you're stuck in the world of putting everyone above yourself and then hating yourself for it afterward, and you like a direct non-apologetically aggressive (in all the right ways) approach, this book is for you!