An Author Shares Her Trauma and Guides Readers to Overcome Their Own
Tracee Hunt on learning to not compare traumas and instead reach readers with all types of trauma.
Today’s Invisible Stories guest is the founder and president of Total HR Solutions LLC, and author of Silent Overcomer: Trauma Comes in all Shapes and Sizes, Tracee L. Hunt. Tracee knows that people are the foundation of any business, and her company relies upon years of executive consultation expertise to work with key leadership in organizations to learn what is required to achieve the desired outcomes in a company. They then translate that into key people strategies. Tracee founded her business in response to a recognized need nationally for small to mid-sized companies across all industries, both for profit and not-for-profit, to have access to strategic Human Resources and Benefits strategies. In Tracee’s memoir, Silent Overcomer, she shares her insights and encourages readers to examine their own traumas, offering hope and encouragement to anyone struggling with adversity, whether past or present. Her honesty and courage in telling her no-holds-barred story is an inspiring message of resilience.
In this podcast, Tracee and I delve into the details of her book, and how she managed to overcome her minimization of her own trauma and reframe her thinking about her story. Tracee shares:
- Her perspective on trauma, and how it can color our world view and compound upon itself if we don’t address the root of that trauma.
- How she learned to move past the fear of how her work might impact the people in her past that had caused her trauma, and instead focus on those she really needed to reach, her audience that might also be struggling as she had.
- By writing her book authentically and focusing on reaching others like her, she ended up reaching a far wider audience than she imagined just because she wasn’t actively trying to address her book to everyone. The authenticity came across and really impacted people.
Silent Overcomer is a tell-all memoir about the author’s life of perpetual trauma.
How do you survive and heal from an overwhelming childhood of trauma and rejection that no one recognized at the time but you? Unwanted even before birth, Tracee L. Hunt has a mother who despised her and took every opportunity to make her feel insignificant. In her searing, soul-baring memoir “Silent Overcomer,” Hunt describes her critical years growing up in a household where being parented by fear and intimidation was normal, and spending weekends with her loving grandparents was the only quality time she had and her only relief from emotional and physical torment. Her mother’s favorite phrase “I HOLD THE KEY” reinforced the message that Hunt’s life was totally controlled by her mother and she should never forget it.
From the crushing revelation at age twelve of who her real father is to taking on motherly responsibilities for her baby brother at age thirteen, Hunt’s adolescence was marked by emotional neglect and an aching need for love and validation. “At sixteen, she was devastated when her protector, her older brother, left for college, which only paved the way for the wrath of her mother to intensify. Though graduating at the top of her class, Hunt married her high school sweetheart instead of going directly to college – and her life took an unpredictable turn.
[00:07:13] Tracee: [00:07:13] I would say it was all of the above those things that I thought I was healed from when I had to write them, I recognized that I still needed further healing. And I also recognize that healing is a perpetual process.
[00:07:28] It is never over. We’re always evolving and we’re growing. And one of the things that stand out for me is that. Uh, and I, I had heard someone speak on trauma triggers and trying, so my actual triumph where I am is going to trigger my trauma giver. Um, so we’re all in different stages of trauma. We all have a responsibility in my opinion, and what works [00:08:00] for me and what I want to help the readers understand is.
[00:08:03] Don’t attempt to do it all at one time. And so that’s why, as I wrote the book and I went through the stages of my life, I invite the reader at each section to stop and identify with the thing in that time of your life that may have caused you trauma because trauma is cumulative and it’s almost like compounding interest in the bank because when you have a trauma, what you typically do is you begin to.
[00:08:31] Have a lens that is shaded by that trauma. So everything you’re looking at from that point forward has that trauma lens on you. So if we don’t deal with the trauma in that space, it then lays over into the next space and then it lays over into the next space. So talk about, we love compounding interest when it comes to our money, but we don’t want compounding interest when it comes to our trauma, we want to be able to deal with them.
[00:08:57] And be able to reframe them in a [00:09:00] way that’s going to be beneficial to us so that they don’t then affect everything else in our life.